01 May What’s your Self-Talk?

I had been struggling the last 8 or so years with some really nasty thoughts constantly running through my head. Thoughts like, “You’re not even a Christian”, “You are a horrible person”, “You are unloving”.

It all stemmed from an incident which was done against me and I consequently put up boundaries to protect myself and others. The other party involved didn’t respect my very reasonable boundary and consequently doubled down, gathered a posse, lied and denied.

While the circumstances didn’t change, I did manage to find some solace in a few copping mechanisms, and in case you are going through the same thing, I thought I’d share with you what I’ve done to relieve these nasty thoughts.

• Listen to worship music- praising God while suffering is going to get God’s attention.
• Do good deeds for others- drowns out the accuser’s voice that says I’m awful.
• Share my vulnerabilities with others (who don’t know the people involved) – giving a balanced and truthful account of my situation helps to validate my stance.
• Listen to good or Godly podcasts while driving- helps to train the mind and concentrate on good things, rather than let it wander into all sorts of negative territory.
• Know that as much as God loves you, there is an enemy which is trying to destroy you. The way the enemy works is to steal your joy. Don’t let him win!!
• Eat well and exercise – the endorphins released will put you in a good frame of mind.
• Try not to resort to addictive behaviours which may help short term, but will not benefit long term.

I do hope this helps you, I know it has helped me. God bless you, Vetti x